Not dating for years
You can stay in your pajamas and watch chick flicks on Netflix, or you can get up early and run non-stop all day. The longer you wait, the more scared you are to enter the dating world, especially if you were married a long time and enjoyed the comfort and security of a loving relationship.
The thought of fielding pick-up lines from guys at bars can make you hyperventilate.
The reason why more people aren’t ending up in wildly enthusiastic relationships is simply due to one thing: they’re not getting out of bad relationships soon enough.
They stay in something “ok” for months and even years on end, preferring the safety of mediocrity to the angst of loneliness.
A “great” one won’t come your way unless you’re willing to pass on the ones that are merely “good.”So this is a simple plea: demand strong feelings from your relationship. Have the courage to believe that something better is out there.
Demand awe and inspiration–not all the time, but at least with some regularity. (Hell, I think you might even be able to know sooner than that, but I’m trying to be reasonable here.)And I know some people take issue with this, saying they were dating three years (or more) before they truly fell in love, and now they’ve been together 40 years now, blah, blah, blah. But what happens a lot more often is people who are in limbo for years simply get married because they feel they can’t “waste” the 5 years they’ve been together by splitting up now, and instead go on to waste ten more miserable years together being in an incompatible relationship they don’t have the courage to get out of.
I think it’s important to take time to heal from divorce.
Michelle Lu, a junior at Pepperdine University, finds the commitment conflicts true: “Everyone is in a different place in life, so it's hard to date as a freshman.” If you’re anxious to date someone, especially when you’re so early in your college career, be sure you note that everyone has a busy schedule.
Both of them fail to understand there are things in the boy’s behavior that are fundamental and would be difficult to change.